WHY SEX IS PAINFUL TO ME: (Long) list of reasons why penetration can produce pain

Almost every woman feels pain at some point, or at least sometimes it is, in some circumstances in her life, during intercourse. We all let out a sob, “Wow!”, Followed by an accusing glare, if our partners dug a little too deep into the cervix.

This is easily corrected by changing position and shallower pushing.

Constant, persistent pain is something else entirely.

Pay attention to that. Never ignore pain anywhere in the body.

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It can happen that these problems have to do with age, especially if you are menopausal, though, it doesn’t have to mean because there are many other reasons why sex can hurt you.

Dyspareunia is the name for any pain associated with intercourse, but there are many things that cause it, and an accurate diagnosis is key to effective treatment.

Don’t be fooled, the pain will go away in time. He won’t. Don’t tell yourself you’re imagining it. You’re not imagining.

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Even if it’s not the acute pain you’re feeling, it’s still pain. Which means that something you used to enjoy – sex – becomes something you fear.

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This list of possible causes is not for self-diagnosis – your first step is to see a gynecologist – but it may help you determine the type of pain you have so that you can clearly explain it to your doctor.

Remember: Dr Google it is not a reliable source for solving health problems. This can only be done by a qualified doctor.

Aging and menopause cause vaginal atrophy of the vaginal mucosa, because the level of hormones decreases, which makes the vaginal walls thinner and drier. The canal narrows, shortens and becomes less elastic. The drier the vagina, the easier it is to irritate and the more vulnerable you are to vaginal diseases and infections.

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Vaginal dryness. This is a BIG problem for many women.

A Durex study found that 73 per cent of women in the UK feel uncomfortable during sex due to a dry vagina.

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Researchers (for Vagisil) interviewed 2,000 women between the ages of 40 and 61 and found that the main cause of painful or uncomfortable sex was vaginal dryness. They estimate that this is something that half of women over the age of 40 experience in their lives – with a great impact on their sex life.

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Fifty-two percent of those who said that they thought they would let their partner down by making their vagina dry, and 33 percent said that their partner was frustrated because of that.

Twenty-five percent said they invented an excuse to avoid sex, and 24 percent said they still had sex, “suffering in silence” and just hoping it would get better.

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Dear women, we are very wrong with all the above reasons (why we think we are to blame / why we have to be ashamed / why men should be nervous!) And that is obviously the main cause of sexual anxiety.

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Tight vaginal muscles can also cause pain. Sometimes it’s because you’re not completely excited and you need more foreplay. Sometimes it’s because you feel anxious because sex has been painful in the past. Sometimes it’s because you’re angry with your partner and don’t want to have sex at all. For some women, this is due to past trauma – such as sexual abuse or assault.

Vaginismus, which we have already written about a couple of times, is an involuntary tightening of the outer walls of the vagina that makes penetrating the penis difficult or impossible.

High tonal dysfunction of the pelvic floor is different. This happens when the muscles that support the vagina, bladder and rectum become tense and cannot relax.

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Fungal infections make the vagina feel painful and irritated.

Sexually transmitted infections do the same.

Bacterial vaginosis is a vaginal infection that produces a thin foul-smelling discharge caused by an imbalance in the vaginal ecosystem.

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Pelvic pain is caused by adhesions, endometriosis, fibroids and cysts.

Hysterectomy and other pelvic surgeries can sometimes end up making the relationship painful. As well as some therapies that people with cancer have had (ovaries, uterus, etc.).

Vulvodynia produces burning pain in the vulva and vagina.

Provoked vestibulodia also causes burning pain at the entrance to the vagina when touched.

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Interstitial cystitis is a chronic health problem of the bladder that causes inflammation in the bladder mucosa. It makes you feel like you want to pee urgently and often and you feel like peeing when you do.

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This article is intended to help you identify what could be causing you pain when you have penetrating sex.

For all other details, complete examination, diagnosis and adequate therapy, contact your chosen doctor.


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