When we choose a partner who has opposite qualities, conflict or disappointment occurs

Diseases are, in fact, manifested conflicts. In partner relationships, we choose a partner who has exactly the opposite qualities or our weaknesses, and then there is a conflict or disappointment. It’s the same with people who annoy us. Whether it’s a politician, a boss or a partner, it doesn’t matter. In this way, we create a distorted picture of reality. In the mirror of our subjective reality, we see something that is not actually happening.

Nikola Žuvelapsychotherapist and jyotish advisor

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Instead of understanding how we judge because of the created polarization, we turn to the struggle in the outside world and so all those diseases, like, for example, nationalism, arise in that little man who is the bearer of this conflict.

He cannot see his own weakness in himself and so the conflict becomes an external object, like the hatred of a nation or migrants.

Conflict serves to bring our problem to light.

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So, if we start solving something, problems automatically start piling up. We solve one problem, then another comes. We are then caught in the polarization of the world and our deep dissatisfaction begins because we do not understand the process.

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That’s how we create an image of the world, and others do it, and then the reality we have now arises, in which we all think identically about the problems that surround us. It is group and tribal thinking where there are answers for everything, and all the answers you will hear will be constructed on the basis of fear and anger.

On the other hand, we can want something and reality will behave differently, that’s why a different approach to the problem is needed, but we usually have our way, we continue to want even though we are disappointed in what we want, but what we want represents something that is immutable. We give importance to that desire, whether it is a past love or an obsession, such as the desire for fame.

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Then we feel as if the world is against us.

When we want someone and things don’t go as we wanted, then undesirable events occur that distort our image of reality. Frustration and anger are the result. Thus, we choose one side of the explanation of why this happened to us, we choose the opinion of the majority about this problem, which has already adopted old attitudes, and we fall into the mill that creates self-identification with lower emotions.

Let’s say, I fell in love with Anita, when I approached her, she rejected me. Then this man uses ugly catchphrases about women that have been created by men for thousands of years and thus he identifies with the collective frustration.

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When we always choose one side, we also condition our loved ones, and drag them into that problem because we blame them for failure somewhere.

Therefore, it is important to be aware of unconsciously adopting an attitude that leads to certain disappointment.

The opposite process is researching what attracted me, laying bare my desire and in this way when we find what is worth a step or approach to a person, then we are clearer to the other side and it is certain that the true desire in which we seek only love, will find another side that reciprocates because then that person also wants love.

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Unrequited love doesn’t come because the motives are wrong, and it’s hard to get behind the mask and see how what we wanted wasn’t sincere and that the person we were disappointed in was, in fact, the bearer of some of our inhibitions that we don’t admit to ourselves in everyday life.

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