What is and is not “normal” in relationships with (close) people

I know that most of you know how to think about it and work on it, but – there are always those readers who are looking for a translation from Serbian into Serbian. Among these readers are, as usual, those who try and think that they can refute great truths and unwritten rules with such and similar remarks: “It doesn’t have to mean”, “It doesn’t apply to me”, “Here, it’s the other way around with me” , “Not all / all…”, “Not always so”.

Marina Drobnjaković, dipl. psychologist and psychotherapeutic counselor

So, it is not normal that you are towards others as others are towards you, but it is normal that you are always good and nice to everyone.

It is not normal to be (always) honest, but it is normal to drag, tact and play badly.

It is not normal to be embarrassed to ask, but it is normal to take without pardon.

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It is not normal that you can do it alone, but it is normal that you cannot do without a partner.

It is not normal to wait (long) for the Right or the Right, but it is normal to spend your whole life with the wrong or wrong.

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It’s not normal to be alone (for a long time), but it’s normal to be usually with at least two men or two women.

It is not normal to have no one, but it is normal to have only a child and you are one with him.

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It is not normal that you do not want a marriage, but it is normal to (chronically) cheat on your husband or your wife.

It is not normal that you do not want children, but it is normal that you want children that you want someone else to take care of.

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It’s not normal that you can’t earn enough for yourself, but it’s normal that you won’t work because you’re married.

It is not normal to expect or seek financial help from your parents in adulthood, but it is normal for your husband or wife to support you throughout your married life.

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It’s not normal to be a childish and adult single, but it’s normal to be a parent who doesn’t work (and has never worked) or is dependent on your partner.

It is not normal that you cannot provide for yourself, but it is normal that you cannot provide for your children.

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It is not normal to break up or divorce because of a “trifle”, but it is normal not to do it “just” because love is gone, cheating has happened or psychological violence has always happened.

It is not normal for a middle-aged man to be interested in a peer or a woman a few years younger than you, but the most normal thing is to be interested in a 20-year-old in your fifties.

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It is not normal to give birth to a child during your studies, but the most normal thing is to feel mature for the birth of your first child only after the age of forty.

It is not normal to have wrinkles in your fifties or sixties, but it is most normal to have Botox in you as early as your twenties. Do you understand what I mean and suggest that you reconsider and reconsider?

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I mean, it’s normal to want to belong and fit in. People on their own can only be among their own. However, belonging and fitting in does not mean doing the same as the vast majority of others – just because the vast majority of others do what they do. You belong and fit in when you surround yourself with people like yourself, and there are always and surely people like you, no matter how few there are.

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It is normal not to agree to “normal” just because it is average, typical, assumed and default. It is normal to wonder if you want what others say and think they want. It is normal that you do not want anything that can be desired.

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People all too often forget the fact that apart from YES there is also NO and that nothing, but literally nothing important is good to choose by inertia, automatism and without first making a conscious decision.

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It is normal that you want to unlearn what your parents and other significant others have taught you, because you realize that it does not benefit you and retaliates more than it helps. It is normal that at some point you come to the realization that from now on you do not want the way you chose, worked and only knew how to do so far.

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It is normal that you do not want to stick out and sting your eyes, but it is also normal that you want to. You are not in this world to please others and commit to non-ripple. You are there to be what you are, surrounded by those who understand, accept, support and love you.

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It is normal that you do not want to allow and tolerate anything at any cost. It is normal to know about boundaries that others do not know about. It is normal that the opinions of important others are important to you, but it is also normal that what you think about what is important is more important to you. The more mature and accomplished a person is, the more capable he is of relying on himself and believing in himself.

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You don’t live by liking everyone, impressing others and leaving them speechless. One does not live from images and performances created for the public, from imitating the “normal” and (pro) performing the false. You don’t even make a living by proving to others, competing with them and overtaking them.

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Paying a high price is barely surviving, let alone living. And you only live once, so – how will you, if not on your own ?!


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