What happens during orgasm? – Napidoktor

The degrees of male and female sexual response are very similar. What is the way to orgasm? Why is it that women seem to have a harder time reaching orgasm?

Sexual desire

Sexual desire is created by some stimulus, which can be an image, sound, smell, touch. For example, your lover’s favorite perfume can easily arouse desire in you, especially if the scent has been associated with some pleasant experience, such as a sexual one.

Sexual arousal is not tied to time of day or situation, more importantly, the desire-inducing stimulus is present. The desire can easily be aroused by a thought or fantasy image. Some research has highlighted that thoughts make it harder for women to get excited. But this is certainly not true for everyone, there are big differences between individuals in terms of who finds what is exciting. But the basic pattern of sexual response follows the same course in both sexes.

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Sexual stimuli

Erogenous zones are areas that have many nerve endings that will be more sensitive to touch: neck, mouth, ears and thighs, nipples, penis acorns, clitoral tip, vagina small and large lips, genitals and rectum area between.

Erogenous zones are so often mentioned in connection with sexuality that they also forget to mention individual differences. Touching erogenous zones can result in sexual arousal, but the memory associated with that touch varies from individual to individual. For example, in one person, touching the neck is explicitly erotic, while in another, a bad experience is strongly related to touching the neck, so you will not find any erotic content in kissing your neck.

tip: Tell your partner what touch and smell is good for you and encourage him to do the same. Unfortunately, we still can’t read each other’s minds, it’s essential to communicate our feelings and problems to the other. If you are touched in the wrong place for you, let him or her know, because as long as your partner is unaware of this, they will try it, as their own experience shows that this movement is erotic to others or to themselves.

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There are four stages to a sexual response

  1. Excitement phase

One of the basic tenets of sexuality is that every person is different. There are, of course, similarities, but we cannot draw general conclusions as to exactly how a sexual intercourse should take place.

The excitement phase – that is, when sexual arousal increases – is particularly marked by socialization and upbringing. There has been talk in the past about “double morality,” that while men were encouraged to have sex, at certain ages the expected behavior of women was virginity.. The effects of this are still being felt today, so while women can get excited very quickly and get to the top in a matter of minutes, this behavior is not even encouraged. Girls are often raised today to suppress their sexual urges. And it will take time to resolve the inhibitions that have arisen.

What is happening in your body?

Females: The inner two-thirds of the vagina dilate, the clitoris stiffens, the labia are swollen, and blood clots form in the vaginal wall.

Men: erection, scrotum closer to body

Difference between men and women: Women tend to relapse during the arousal phase, so longer stimulation is needed.

  1. Plateau phase

During the plateau phase, the already elevated sexual arousal stops at a certain level.

What is happening in your body?

Females: The vagina no longer expands, but the lower third begins to shrink, the clitoris retracts and the uterus continues to rise into the abdominal cavity.

Men: no major change

In both sexes: Heart rate and breathing increase, blood pressure rises.

  1. Orgasm phase

This enjoyable experience is available to man for a few seconds. The whole body is involved in orgasm. An orgasm is nothing more than a series of ever-weakening writhes that result in strong muscle tension.

What is happening in your body?

Females: The lower third of the vagina contracts rhythmically, 3-15 times. Uterine muscles also contract.

Men: ejaculation (with about a teaspoon of semen). (Adolescent boys can have orgasms, but without ejaculation.)

The difference between men and women: a big difference here is already evident between women and men. Women are able to repeat the plateau and orgasm phases, i.e. they are capable of multiple orgasms. Men, especially at a young age, may be able to produce multiple erections in a row, but this is a completely different phenomenon than in women.

  1. Relaxation phase

And after a well-deserved job, the body rests and the previously tense muscles relax.

What is happening in your body?

Females: Vaginal hemorrhage ceases, the clitoris emerges again, the uterus returns to its original size and sinks back.

Men: The erection disappears, but it happens in two stages. At first, a spectacular sag occurs after orgasm, but the size of the penis is still larger than at rest. If the excitement and plateau phase were longer, it would maintain this state for a while longer, followed by complete relaxation. This is followed by the refractory period, the period when the man is not yet able to have another erection. The length of the period is our individual and varies with age.

In both sexes: The redness caused by the excitement disappears and the pulse and breathing return to normal.

Loud, but not because of the orgasm!


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