True love or just infatuation? Here’s how to know what kind of feelings it is

Have you been in a relationship for a while, do you love each other, are you having fun, but you can’t quite understand how you feel about the other person? Understanding whether you are in love is not an easy thing at all.

In love, in fact, there are no hard and fast rules, precise timing or checklist: some people know they are in love after just one moment; others develop feelings after months or even years of small gestures.

However, there are some common signs that you might be falling in love… and we’re not talking about those all-encompassing “I can’t eat, I can’t sleep” feelings. Here they are.

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Falling in love is different for everyone. But Robert J. Sternberg’s triangular theory of love identifies three main aspects: intimacy (the desire to feel closely connected), passion (physical and emotional stimulation), and commitment/commitment (the determination to stick together).

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However, the most telling sign that you are in love is if you find yourself wanting to share as much as possible with your love interest, from a small win at work to family issues.

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Sure, it might be corny, but it’s true. You know you’re falling in love when your partner starts occupying all your thoughts.

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You may be reminiscing about your conversations in the middle of the workday, thinking about your next meeting a few days in advance, or even imagining your future together.

Likewise, when you fall in love, you tend to feel warm. This could mean, for example, that you can’t stop smiling when you think about your partner.

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Does he love me or not? If you constantly wonder if your partner has the same feelings for you, then this is another sign that you are in love.

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People who struggle with falling in love often report feeling better about themselves; as if they know more or can do more.

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The experience of “self-expansion” often happens when people fall in love, meaning that their sense of self grows through their relationship with this new person. For example, someone whose partner enjoys hiking might start to think of themselves as a hiker.

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Our closest friends are often able to see things that we cannot see ourselves. For example, if you continue to talk about your partner or invite him to dinners, it is likely that others have already realized that you are falling in love.

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And while friends will certainly understand the situation, it is still important that you do not forget to seek a new balance.

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To understand if you are in love, just ask yourself this question: have your priorities changed since you started dating?

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If you are rearranging, redefining or reinventing your life, then you may be falling in love.

It’s just as obvious when making changes to your calendar to make sure you’re available to spend time together isn’t a sacrifice at all. On the contrary.

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Yes, just like a dessert or a piece of cake.

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This happens because an area of ​​our brain associated with focus and desire (called the ventral tegmental area) causes the release of increased levels of dopamine when we’re in love.

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To understand if you are in love, try to think about what you like about your partner. If the answer is everything, then your heart beats only for that person.

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You will begin to find everything irresistible about him/her; this includes even small quirks, an unusual sense of style or a particular way of doing things.

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Gone are the days of constantly opening dating apps — if you find you’re not so inclined to explore those other fish in the sea, then that’s another sign you’re falling in love.

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Are you suddenly enjoying chatting with your less-than-nice colleague or striking up conversations with your grumpy neighbor?

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Falling in love can make us lose autopilot and allow us to see everything and everyone in a new light. Love can contribute to a greater sense of well-being and lead to a positive outlook, which can extend beyond the person you’re dating.

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Do you repeat your conversations in your mind, analyze messages, think about what to wear to the next meeting? We’ve all been there.

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Changes in stress or anxiety may correspond to the early stages of falling in love.

While exciting, the newness of a relationship, uncertainty, and the intense experience of new love can cause stress, as indicated by cortisol levels.

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Whoever first coined the saying “two become one” wasn’t kidding: when two people in a romantic relationship meet, their perceptions of themselves begin to merge.

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Because of this overlap of self and other, people see themselves more as their partner and may confuse their own characteristics with those of the other person; to the point where you might start dressing or talking like him.

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You might find that it doesn’t feel weird to book flights together for that wedding abroad in six months, or even start talking about where to spend your next vacation. This is also a signal that helps you understand if you are in love.

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The most important sign that you are falling in love? Everything seems fine to you.

Part of that is because one of the characteristics of being in love is this feeling of rightness and certainty and the absence of doubt. Because of this, you may start to notice that you no longer care if he sees you after your ghost gym session, or even consider the possibility that he’s scared of your weirdness.

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When we fall in love, the parts of the brain that are responsible for social judgment and critical thinking begin to work more slowly, and therefore lack the scrutiny and self-evaluation that we might have in other circumstances.

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