Conflicts that occur during this period play a role in the development of a young person’s identity.
In the period of childhood, the basis on which the child learns how to organize his personal experience and to use it in interaction with others is the family field.
The child adopts the opinions, attitudes of parents and family without any major re-examinations, and in that way forms the image and experience of himself.
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In adolescence, a young person begins to adopt sensory experiences in a new way – he begins to experience sight, hearing, smell and touch to a greater extent as his own and begins to take control of his own experience.
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While the child experiences as an objective reality accustomed and unexamined perceptions, during adolescence the field of experience differentiates and expands, the adolescent begins to create his own point of view, becomes aware that his perceptions do not always coincide with family reality, begins to “see things with his own eyes”. .
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This phenomenon of one’s own perspective, which reveals one’s own world in more detail, lays the foundation for an increased awareness of the inner life that will develop as adolescence progresses.
This often takes place through conflicts, so it can be said that they are useful in that sense, because they enable a young person to become more aware of what his needs are and what not, to begin to distinguish more clearly “I” from “they”.
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Thus, he got a chance to become aware of his alienated needs and parts of the personality, as well as to integrate them, connect them, to start striving to actualize himself, and not the concept he has about himself.
However, the adolescent is often too critical of the attitudes, standards, behaviors, and opinions of parents, and uncritically accepts new ones that come from peers.
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Psychotherapy can help him not to go to any extremes, but to find what suits him, by enabling him to break down, put together and reassemble what he has adopted without question into the form that is most useful to him.
Through them, we become more aware of what our “I” represents, that is, we set the boundaries of our personality.
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That is why it is good to know how to solve them, when they are useful and when they are not, especially in periods such as adolescence when they are frequent and when there is a possibility to go to extremes.
Conflicts that do not contribute to the awareness of borders and better relations with others are not constructive, and often only lead to a worsening of relations with the environment and seem exhausting.
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