We often wonder what the true meaning of life is. We are used, in fact, to place its discovery in a future and indefinite time. When we find the ideal job and the amazing partner, all our internal and external conflicts will be resolved and we will finally enjoy the daily life we dream of. But is that really so? Is there a good genie that paves the way to happiness with rose petals?
The book by Dimitris Flamouris “The paradoxical path to the meaning of life” from Hibiscus Publications emerges as a valuable, practical and unconventional guide to intellectual development. It trains us in that best life we deserve, recommending us from the beginning the only genie we can trust: ourselves.
The hero of the book – who is the author himself – works in a multinational company and, according to the stereotypical criteria of society, is already considered successful. “But why do not I feel full?” he wonders on his 30th birthday and before he realizes it, he begins a special journey into the wisdom of the world, a wandering so magical and deeply confessional that it draws each of us to its fascinating rhythm.
Brain: A complex machine for creating meaning
So who is the world? Is there an objective and absolute view of it? In fact, our brain is a complex machine for creating meaning, as the truth we experience is a result of the way we are trained to interpret visual signals. Therefore, in the avenue of life we see the traffic lights green, red or orange depending on our personal experiences and the given conditions. But it’s time to ask ourselves: Is the traffic light really red? Are the obstacles in front of us there or are we just trembling at the speed of a green light?
And if our brain is equivalent to essential vision, how exactly are emotions interpreted? Are they what we feel or what we create? Suppose we are suffering from a panic attack. Our hands sweat, our feet tremble, our breath stops and our heart breaks. We are convinced that we are dying, even though no real danger threatens us. Reality does not reassure us, since in essence how we feel is fully dependent on what we think our physical discomfort means.
When we are accustomed to categorizing our senses only as good or bad, then we are probably constantly acrobatic between euphoria and despair. But what if we tried to enrich our emotional vocabulary by separating, for example, sadness from despair? Then our brain would be trained in the construction of new concepts of interpretation of the bodily senses, offering us more effective instructions for their management.
Stress as a source of strength
Understanding the bodily senses will not permanently relieve us of stress. As much as the self-knowledge manuals and gurus of the time insist on proposing magical solutions to its disappearance, it will still exist, being the natural consequence of our involvement in situations important to us.
So since we fatally coexist with him, why not try to turn him from an enemy into an ally, making him a source of power? When the situation seems threatening, we always have the opportunity to choose our response to it. A writer who immerses himself in his work experiences the positive effect of stress on his body, feeling excited and energized, since in essence more than our stress affects the way we make sense of it.
But is it possible to neutralize the negative thoughts that often trap us in the vicious circle of self-doubt? We constantly struggle with them, seeking control and forgetting the most important thing: Our brain does not aim at happiness but at our survival and therefore tends to focus on identifying potential threats in order to protect us.
It is impossible to reverse the way our mind works, however if we stop feeding negative thoughts with emotions then they will stop scaring us, like a thriller movie playing in a movie theater without gaining the audience’s attention. After all, 90% of our fears correspond to past threatening models and are the result of emotional filters that we have subconsciously constructed since childhood.
Creating the meaning of our life
Dimitris Flamouris in the book “The Paradoxical Path to the meaning of life” from Hibiscus Publications takes us on a tour of the colorful universe of self-knowledge. And we at the end of the wandering, are no longer ourselves. The author breaks down popular theories and stereotypes by bravely walking with us another path, less traveled but completely transformative. Do we really need a magic wand in order to achieve our goals?
As we train in the developmental context of thinking we begin to realize that with the right support, strategy and effort we can create the self we desire. If, for example, we are too shy to talk to that co-worker about the job we are interested in, maybe all we need is a little more practice. At the end of the day, it is important to take responsibility for our destiny, understanding that freedom equates not only with our gifts but also with the knowledge of our limitations.
The author, combining the latest research in neuroscience, the new science of stress and the science of mobilization with Psychology and Existential Philosophy, explores the very truth of human nature, making us communicative of a transformative experience. And finally we realize that we will not discover the meaning of life but we will invent it, with a compass of our important values. An inner liberation book for those who dare to reconsider their history, a tender path to self-compassion and a redemptive reminder that our world changes just as we become aware of the distorting lens through which we face it.
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