Suara.com – If you are a girl and are the eldest, you may feel a lot of responsibility. Especially when you have several siblings.
For example, being an example for his younger siblings, thinking about the needs of his younger siblings, and taking care of his younger siblings, even since the older brother was small.
However, not all eldest daughters experience pressure from their families.
Psychotherapist Caroline Plumer says responsibility is a behavior the oldest girls learn from a very young age.
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“Elderly older sisters will spend at least a small part of their lives as an only child, and therefore most of them become adults, and especially their mothers, who model their behavior,” explains Caroline. Metro.
He continued that older sisters are seen as caregivers for the family. If the mother is unable for any reason, hope will fall on the eldest son to carry out his role.
Caroline says such expectations can cause stress and anxiety at a young age, which can then affect the rest of her life.
“It can also result in a lack of boundaries in the long term and a behavioral tendency to please others because older sisters believe that their job is to be responsible for the well-being and happiness of others.”
Experts say it’s important to create healthy boundaries. For example, by not continuously neglecting one’s own well-being in order to prioritize the interests of others.
“Be confident in making sure your needs are met and ask for support if necessary.”
Meanwhile, according to coach and psychology teacher Rebecca Lockwood, eldest older sisters can easily fall into the habit of assuming parental responsibilities.
It can have both positive and negative long-term effects on the oldest children.
“The negative effect may be that the eldest child always feels pressure on them to make sure his younger siblings are okay, and the positive effect can also be the same,” explained Rebecca.
She continued that it all depended on how each of the eldest daughters interpreted the feelings and pressures she received.
“Because for some it will help them develop and for others it may feel like a burden.”
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