Not introverted, only super-sensitive – interview with psychologist Zsófi Mirk

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Super-sensitivity as a possible super-power, which is a serious challenge for many on a daily basis, Mirk Zsófia Eszter Mészáros talked to a psychologist, coach and mediator. Please welcome.

Imagine finding and applying for the coveted position and giving your competitors a chance at a multi-round audition. You arrive for a job interview, offer you an HR position, and start bombarding you with questions right away. You try to pick up the yarn while your mind is constantly pounding, scanning your environment and your own functioning. Dazzling neon light illuminates the meeting room, where freezing cool air reigns. The deafening roar of vehicles heading home from work and the rumble of people lurking at the tram stop are heard in the street-front office. The smell of freshly brewed, steaming espresso pervades your nose. You can still feel the intense aftertaste of menthol chewing gum in your mouth.

Concentrate, your inner voice scolding.
– What are your strengths / weaknesses?

You hesitate for a few moments, and then you come to the conclusion that you undertake:
– I’m super sensitive.

But did you make a good decision?

Every fifth person is super-sensitive, does not develop, we inherit

ME: What does it mean to be super-sensitive? How can I recognize if I am?

MZS: Super-sensitivity is a trait. This condition is approx it affects every fifth person, many of them don’t even know themselves to be super – sensitive, they just perceive them to be sensitive, they have a greater need to spend more time in their inner world as they are quickly oversaturated with stimuli.

The term itself may seem pejorative at first, but in reality it is about other structures working in the brain. Information processing takes place at a deeper level for a super-sensitive individual and takes longer than for a less sensitive individual.

People living with this personality trait are extremely thoughtful, chew a lot, think, their minds function like a puzzle, which can only get rid of spasmodic tearing if the individual has interpreted and understood the given phenomenon in all aspects.

ME: How does super-sensitivity develop? Is this an innate trait? Inheritable?

MZS: Super-sensitivity is an inherited trait that manifests itself as a child. The sensitive child looks at the playground first, only then acts, speaks little in company. From this, many conclude that he is timid, timid, introverted, waiting to moan. I find it important to mention that whoever is super-sensitive is not necessarily shy or introverted. Clinical psychologist Elaine N. Aron researched using a questionnaire method and found that 70% of the super-sensitive are introverted and 30% are extroverted. A child who is born into being safe among many people, there is a hustle and bustle around him, he will probably look for it in the world later. Regardless, it can still be super-sensitive.

Everyone has a basic level of arousal, which varies from person to person depending on personality. For sensory seekers, for example, this level is inherently higher than for an introverted person. I find it important to be aware of what the appropriate level of activation is for us. This way we can develop a strategy in case we are bored, or if we are just overwhelmed, or we may already be suffering from physical complaints. Walking, relaxation or meditation can bring a solution to our over-spinning state, but we can also find peace in drawing and painting.

ME: If someone is not engaged in self-knowledge, psychology, is not aware of the concept of arousal level, does not know what body sensations to pay attention to, what can he do to get to an optimal level of irritability?

MZS: Instinctively, we strive to feel good in our skin, which is realized when we can function well in the outside world, but at the same time we need a certain level of self-knowledge to find the activities that fill us with joy. If someone is constantly overdoing themselves, performing non-stop, they will almost certainly show signs of burnout sooner or later.

ME: Can super-sensitivity be situation-dependent? Can emergencies exacerbate this condition?

MZS: Super-sensitivity is not situational, but there are situations that can make this condition more intense. The super-sensitive perceive more things from the outside world and the stimuli also enter the brain through several channels at the same time, thus overloading their nervous system, activating the system of the mind that inhibits action. In a situation where they see flickering lights, hear strong sound effects, smell penetrating odors, get into a crowd, experience anxiety, panic.

Experiencing trauma also leaves an imprint on our nervous system, which can also increase sensitivity. However, I would like to emphasize that it is not as a result of someone becoming super-sensitive to being in a difficult situation or experiencing a trauma, but it is an inherited trait.

Men and women can be affected in the same way, but men try to hide

ME: Is there a difference in how super-sensitivity appears in men and women? Do more women have this personality trait than there are men?

MZS: It is a social stereotype that women are more sensitive, but research by Elaine N. Aron has shown that about as many men are affected as there are women.

Men experience super-sensitivity differently than women. In my opinion, the reason for this is that in Hungary men are generally expected not to show their emotions, do not cry, do not look weak. In my practice, I find that lack of self-confidence, struggle with constant misunderstanding, lack of self-acceptance, search for self-justification, shame are characteristics of both super-sensitive women and super-sensitive men.

ME: How do super-sensitive women view the issue of having children?

MZS: Having a baby can be more challenging for a super-sensitive woman than it is for a less sensitive woman. Due to the specific nervous system function, it is difficult to tolerate the multitude of stimuli flowing to us during the day, and parenting inevitably requires even more stress, readiness and social interaction from us, contacting nursing aunts, teachers, teachers, other parents and children.

I think that as a sensitive person, one also thinks about this issue better before making a decision, leaving room for this, waiting for the feelings, thoughts about it to appear and digesting it.

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