New Year’s resolution to “be kind, forgive, and be gracious to yourself”?

During these difficult times, it’s okay to make New Year’s resolutions to be kind, forgiving and gracious to yourself, says Northwell Health’s chief psychologist. [사진= 게티이미지뱅크]

The past few years have been very difficult for many people. Now, we have entered the week of making New Year’s resolutions in earnest. But let’s not rush.

The American Psychological Association (APA) suggests that New Year’s resolutions “start with the little things.” You should set your goals as small as you think you can keep them.

For example, if you want to eat a healthier diet, don’t structure your diet as if you were punishing yourself. Replace the dessert with something you enjoy.

Also, if your goal is to exercise more, don’t bully yourself all week, and only make reservations at the gym 3-4 days a week.

Jesse Levin, chief psychologist at Northwell Health, New York, USA, said, “Before the COVID-19 pandemic, we discussed realistic and practical New Year’s resolutions and smart goals that are specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and “You are most likely to be successful when you set goals with time limits.”

But more recently, Levin said, “I’m encouraging you to make new year’s resolutions to be kind to yourself and forgive yourself.”

Northwell Health is a large network of hospitals in New York.

“We’ve all been through a lot of stress over the past few years, we’ve seen a few ripples and mutations, and we’ve had to change our daily lifestyle,” she said.

“This is not to say that setting goals, especially health-promoting goals, is not important,” she said. Along with lifestyle changes, it is important to improve your diet and physical activity, and your mental health goals are also important.”

According to the APA, people who make relatively more general New Year’s resolutions are encouraged to change only ‘one action at a time’. This means don’t try to change too many things at once. If you replace several unhealthy behaviors one by one with healthy ones, all the unhealthy behaviors will naturally change over time.

Also, sharing your experiences with family, friends, and support groups can be very helpful to achieve goals such as quitting smoking. Sharing experiences makes the transition to a healthier lifestyle a much easier and less threatening process.

Reaching perfection is never easy. Small mistakes are normal. It’s also a good idea to ask someone to take care of you to help build resilience. If you feel that you are unable to reach your goals on your own under pressure, you should consider seeking professional help.

This year, we need more specific goals, such as the goal of forgiving ourselves. Even if you arrive a little late for the meeting, drink your coffee before work begins. Even if you think your family’s dinner needs are justified, stop for a moment. So forgive yourself generously.

Another goal is to write down three things you are grateful for every week. Aim to focus on gratitude. How about calling or texting someone you haven’t been in touch with lately?

Levin predicted that as the COVID-19 pandemic continues, the incidence of depression, anxiety disorders, and substance abuse will increase. “We must not become harsh critics of ourselves in 2022, as we seek mental stability in a changing environment,” she stressed.

So, the conclusion reached by psychologist Levin through the American health media ‘Health Day’ is as follows.

“Let us show ourselves kindness, grace, forgiveness. Let’s make these our New Year’s resolutions.”

By Kim Young-seop, staff reporter [email protected]

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