Listening to people complaining all the time costs you energy
Do you have people in your life who complain?
The modern way of life has become so demanding that everyone, at some point, will inevitably complain about things they have to deal with.
This is a natural response that allows you to release tension during complex or painful situations. However, sometimes – and without recognizing it – it steals your energy.
It is not bad to feel compassion for your friends when they are going through difficult times. However, listening to people complaining about almost everything can be more harmful than you can imagine.
The most worrying thing is that this behavior can become so toxic and manipulate you that you start to think that you are indifferent or selfish just because you no longer want to be there.
This is why it is important to learn how to recognize someone who is constantly complaining and to understand the effects of their negativity on your life.
The profile of the one who is constantly complaining
This person lives in denial of the life he leads. He or she always tries to be a victim by complaining about what he or she has or does not have. Above all, they never do anything to change the things that torment them most of all.
It may seem normal at first. However, over time you realize that instead of being the result of a difficult situation that passes, their complaints arise from a habit that is already part of their lifestyle.
Otherwise, it is a conscious or unconscious form of manipulation. During this, the person complaining tries to create guilt, compassion or solidarity to avoid taking responsibility for his own life.
Suddenly, you feel it’s your duty to help them solve their problems or at least be there to wipe their tears at all times.
The consequences of being around people who are constantly complaining
People who complain all the time are so negative that you may suddenly start to feel like you are burdened with a lot more than you should be.
Even if you have the ability to advise or help this type of person, your exposure to what he does is enough to lose a significant portion of your energy.
Although it may be difficult for you to see it, it forces your brain to make changes due to the emotions that are created as a result of someone else’s condition.
Emotions such as frustration, guilt and sadness alter the brain’s hormone-releasing processes. This increases the risk of suffering from:
Difficulty in solving problems
What can you do to deal with this type of person?
Not everything in life is as you planned it to be. After all, you often have to face challenges that you do not want or even expected.
However, it is useless to lock yourself in with frustration and bitterness. After all, these are the attitudes of life that prevent you from facing difficulties and continuing.
The energy you expend to complain is exactly what you need to overcome barrier-like situations.
For this reason, in addition to avoiding becoming someone who complains non-stop, it is also important to understand that you do not have to sit there and listen to those who already are.
You can not pretend to be able to solve other people’s problems when you need that energy to deal with your own life.
So what can you do?
1. Take some distance
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The less you pay attention to them, the faster you will realize that you do not need to invest your energy to listen to their negative thoughts.
2. Help them understand that their problems are theirs
Even if you take the time to listen to their complaints, let the person know that they have these problems because of the way they think.
The most important thing is to make sure that this situation does not start to affect you and advise them to take measures to resolve it with their own means.
3. Do not show weakness
These people have shown their ability to manipulate others with their negative perceptions. That’s why it’s important to be vigilant in order to show them that you are not willing to help them with any problem that may arise.
Although empathy is sometimes unavoidable, try to control the situation so that you do not feel the need to help when the problem does not concern you.
4. Set boundaries
Finally, remember that you have the right to ask someone not to share their tragedies and complaints with you. If you are tired of hearing all his negative thoughts every day, tell him that you are not interested and prefer not to be the shoulder on which they will cry.
Do you have a friend or relative who complains all the time? It’s time to take action! Avoid following their call. Otherwise, at some point you will begin to feel that all this negativity is affecting your own life.
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