Many women (like me) simply don’t need self-indulgence in a relationship because feeling what she is experiencing with her partner is just enough for her. Their libido requires no more. But not everyone is like that. Many women do not masturbate not because the pleasure they live alone would not be good for them, but because they think it would not be appropriate.
Masturbation is not cheating. By taking it away from us or hiding it, we are ashamed of it, we are already drawing a wall between ourselves and our couple. For centuries, we have learned that self-gratification is an aberrated form of behavior and even a sin. They’ve figured out all sorts of horrors about what can happen if you do it: you’ll go to hell or your palms will be hairy, reports Glamour.
Fortunately, many Hungarian women have not received such a trip anymore, and they can make themselves happy outside of contact. Many of us believe that from the moment we have a couple, we have to experience all the pleasures with it. Yet monogamy doesn’t mean you can’t keep self time, you can’t give yourself an orgasm. Just as we do not accept in a relationship that we will experience all experiences together from now on, that we will not have an independent life from there, so it is not true that we cannot have solo sexual experiences from here: with ourselves.
Classic monogamous fidelity is about not letting anything else into my bed but you. I’m not cheating on you. While it is generally accepted among men to masturbate in a relationship (mostly in secret), many women see this as if it is a scam: perhaps because they think they can only experience pleasure through their partner. And just as it is worth touching ourselves during sex, we can pamper ourselves outside of making love. Just like you can have an ice cream on the way home from work or go on a pampering wellness day alone.
Masturbation is not cheating. By taking it away from us or hiding it, we are ashamed of it, we are already drawing a wall between ourselves and our couple. The accusation of “I don’t do it for you” can creep into our relationship unconsciously. One of my clients told me that he used to tell his partner if he was satisfied while the other was working. The man eagerly listens to his account throughout, and in fact, he usually feels like making love. HEt she is downright excited at the thought of what her girlfriend did without her.
Unfortunately, not everyone has such an “idyllic” relationship. In an old relationship, I was so happy to tell you what I was doing alone, but the smile on my face soon faded. Because there was too little sex in our relationship for eczema, it annoyed me not to do it with her, but alone. Maybe she even felt that making love shouldn’t be about mutual pleasure, but about satisfying her. By scolding, shaming, and raising expectations for me, he raised another wall between us. No wonder I wanted to have sex with him even less after that.
My body is my body. I give it as much pleasure as I want. If we don’t have “enough” sex between us, it’s not because I’m complacent instead of making love, but because for some reason I refrain from connecting with the other: for example, because I feel like I don’t accept who I am.
It’s a mistake to think it’s finite how much sex I’m capable of in a day. It’s not true that once I’ve satisfied myself, he won’t get it anymore! To use another example: if I already had a good laugh with a girlfriend that day, I’ll still be able to laugh with her. Of course, only if the atmosphere at home is in a mood to have fun. If you’re jealous that I’ve had a good time with someone else, chances are I’m not going to be happy with him anymore. It’s the same with sex.
By making ourselves happy regardless of our partner, we are not lost in the relationship, on the contrary. By loving ourselves, pampering and appreciating ourselves, our relationship with our partner will be more harmonious.
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