Impositor Syndrome: How to Defeat It? Part 2

Do we have the impression that our successes are due to chance or favorable circumstances and we did nothing for them? Then surely we are the victims of this syndrome and we don’t have enough self-confidence. When recovering, it is a rule of thumb to focus on our strengths because raising awareness improves self-esteem.

Exercise: On quiet evenings or weekends, take time to answer the following 3 questions to recognize our true values.

– What I’m mostly talented about; when did i prove this lately?
– In such cases, what makes me unique?
– What have been my most recent recent successes? Connect them with our specific abilities.

This can be helped if e.g. we call some of our good friends, acquaintances to whom we give their opinions to tell us about our 3 qualities, which they talk about with appreciation. We then evaluate the feedback to feel the impact of the recognition on us. In addition, let us examine whether the opinions of those close to us agree with our image of ourselves and draw lessons.

Let us not reject praise, false modesty can be a form of pride. Let us accept with good heart what we have heard from our friends and do not forget to thank…

Dare to talk freely about these symptoms with these trusted people. This allows us to ease the burden of the disease and also helps us get rid of our beliefs.

When perfectionism sets the barrier

Are we setting difficult goals for ourselves, are we prone to raising the bar too high, and are we failing to strive for perfection? If we don’t achieve our goal, do we feel guilty? In this case, the anxiety you feel about dissatisfaction with yourself can also make you become dependent on the opinions of others. The solution is to “train” ourselves. In order to replace the dissatisfaction caused by our perfectionism with reassurance, a balanced state of mind.

Exercise: In the evening, in bed, before falling asleep, close your eyes and focus on your breathing without modifying it. When we inhale, we feel calmness flooding us, and when we exhale, we feel our anxieties and annoyances. Then think of one of our past successes, our other, good performances, whether they were smaller or more significant. We visualize success: imagine the small details of it. We feel completely filled with a positive sense of good performance.

To capture this positive feeling, we repeat softly to ourselves, ‘I am fit and proven this’, ‘I am confident and not afraid of failure’. “I act without pressure, without fear of the judgment of others”, “I can achieve myself without setting too many goals, I don’t need perfectionism ”.

Let us fall asleep with this practice in our minds as well as the feeling of satisfaction it causes. Repeat this exercise for several consecutive evenings. We will also slowly feel the growth of our self-confidence.

THE PSYCHOLOGIST ANSWERS

How do we feel when we suffer from imposing syndrome?

They are most often unworthy of the positive phenomena of life and usually rejected by the community or family. We may also feel unworthy when we think that we have unconsciously violated social or cultural rules (this may be the case, for example, when we are in a relationship with a person with a higher education until we have completed higher education). Finally, we can also struggle with feelings of incompetence, incompetence, especially in our work. In doing so, we can consider that it is not appropriate e.g. our degree, we do not have a good reference or sufficient experience in the field.

What else can we do to get out of it?

It is a long job to re-evaluate everything we think about ourselves and (mistakenly) believe. It is primary to improve our self-image and be aware of our abilities. Self-hypnosis e.g. it can be an interesting attempt to capture new thoughts within ourselves. But we will probably only be successful if we practice every day for at least three weeks. During the day we can recite a mantra such as e.g. “I am worthy of my family,” or “I get to work — always in the present and in the affirmative. All of this can be associated with memories or actions that justify our aspirations.

Therapeutic options can also be used. Often, as part of therapy, the patient notices that brakes and fears are associated with this syndrome, the psychologist says. In addition, it is essential to consult a professional if our emotions are affected by the problem, e.g. we feel that we are not worthy to be loved, which entails significant difficulties in many areas, .but especially in the relationship.

MINI TEST

Do you often feel like you are not in the right place? YES NO
Do you work more on each job than your colleagues? YES NO
Does your work minidg feel like it didn’t live up to expectations? YES NO
Hard to accept recognition, embarrassed by it? YES NO
Do you think your colleagues are better than you professionally? YES NO
Are you more of an anxious figure? YES NO

If the majority have an YES answer, then you are involved in Impositor Syndrome.

Source: Galenus