If your children succeed without you, you have succeeded as a parent

If your children succeed without you, you have succeeded as a parent

The role of the parent nowadays is one of the most important, the most difficult and the most demanding that a person is called to play at some point in his life. Those who become parents have some dreams for their children.

But above all they want to be well in their lives, to be happy, to be able to stand on their own two feet and to reach a point of being independent, to be weaned from themselves, to live their own lives, with their their own decisions, choices and mistakes.

And one day, then, you become a father or a mother. Do not look for it – I will confirm it – the mistakes you will make will be countless. And you will become overprotective, and you will fight, and you will feel remorse, and in the first child you will be constantly stressed while in the second you will be more relaxed, and when they tell you that your child does not have something serious, but needs it two or three times speech therapy you will cry, because you will feel that your child has suddenly entered a sign and that he has been stigmatized even if it is not so. You will put the cries in his first injection. And you will fight very badly when he is a teenager, when you will exchange heavy conversations, when he will go against you and you will wonder if a different treatment would be more effective.

And here I come to tell you that there are no manuals or guidelines on how to become a parent. Everyone has different perceptions, because they have grown up with their own principles and experiences. So does the child who tries to adapt to the circumstances of his time and of course has his own character and personality.

So what can you do to help your child spread his wings and let him fly free on his own? Of course it will fall many times, but what is the value of getting up if you do not fall first? Believe me, A successful parent is not one who can help his children in any difficulty. He is the one who has raised children who can handle difficulties without asking for his help. If your children leave paternity after adulthood, if they want to pursue their own life independently, as a parent you have done a really good job.

There are three main pillars that all of us who raise children and those who will raise children in the future should know. First and foremost is that you have multiple roles as a parent, secondly that children copy – and when I say copy I mean copy-paste in real time – and thirdly they need your hug and above all your love.

The parent has multiple roles, which he must adopt at all costs in order for his child to become an independent adult in the future. You have to be there for the child to listen to his dreams, to be his guide, his friend, the path he wants to take, you have to be his rainbow, the light in his darkness, and to continue or will you make your own list?

The children are copying. They tend to imitate their parents. If they see a depressed parent, it will be difficult for them to be very happy, if they have an abrupt parent in front of them, they will suddenly learn to speak for themselves. If they see a parent without interests, without appetite, constantly dealing with the mobile phone, imagine what choices they will make in their lives and how they will deal with everything. Think about what model you want to be for your children, because you are their mirror.

Children need hugs and love. Even if you are tired, even if you are suffering from the obligations of the whole day or they have cheated on you, as soon as you hug them and tell them that you love them, everything will pass by magic. After all, what do they want? To feel that you care and give them the attention they need. Make sure you are there for your children, your hug for them should be available 24 hours a day. And you have to show them your love in practice.

Being a parent is the most responsible role in your life. Children are great happiness, these are our gold and our heritage. In them we will place our hopes that they will achieve much more than we did and we will ask to be there and to be proud. But ultimately our success as parents will be when we see them realize their own dreams, in their own lives, being happy.

Author: Vasiliki Asloglou
Text editing: Vasiliki Gougoula

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