“I support victims of abuse but I can not rejoice in the destruction of others” – different

Smaragda Karydi: “I support the victims of abuse but I can not rejoice for the destruction of others”

Smaragda Karydi spoke about the pile of complaints about harassment but also verbal, physical and sexual abuse in the artistic field.

In a post on Facebook, the well-known actress noted, among other things, that she may not have experienced any traumatic experience, but “I wholeheartedly support women and boys who have suffered any form of abuse,” adding, however, that “On the other hand, I can neither rejoice in the destruction and annihilation of others. I understand that it could not have happened otherwise and I am very sad for them. I am sorry. That’s all I feel. Regret. And embarrassment. “

“We met with some, we walked with some in parallel and I admired others for their work.
But the fact that I had a very good collaboration with someone does not make me question another man who passed by him as a martyr. I just can not and do not want to go to the stoning of the square to throw a stone. It is something that is foreign to me anyway. “I can only stand in awe at everyone’s hard time,” he added.

Smaragda Karydi also asked those who refer anonymously to incidents that present us all as if we live in “120 days in Sodom” with orgies, drugs and paranoid behaviors to stop doing so. It is a huge lie and it does great harm. When we all shout together, those who really need to be heard will not be heard. “And there will be no justice,” he said.

The full text of Smaragda Karydi:

When I was in the third year of the National Drama, one of our classmates (who probably left in the process because we did not meet him again in the years) in a group scene from “Summer Night Dream” in the lesson of George Michaelides, did everything to steal the attention of those who played in the foreground, doing what we call in the theater “light rain”. That is, you are indifferent to the story that we all tell together because the audience is basically interested in watching you. When Michailidis remarked to him, my classmate told him that he believed that what he was doing was legal, and that the theater was an arena anyway. There was silence. We were all incredibly shocked. The rehearsal stopped and Michailidis talked to us for a long time about why all this is wrong. It was very sad to meet such overt cynicism in such a young man, at that age when you usually have the drive and the appetite to make the world a better place.

Now young children who want to get involved in theater ask me. They see all these shocks that come to light and are disappointed. And they are afraid.

I have to tell them not to be afraid of anything. Theater is not mud. Not even the arena scene. The majority of people who work in the theater are not monsters. You will meet great and wonderful people. There are monsters as they are everywhere. And if you find monsters on your way do not be afraid. And do not believe them. You do not need to “sit” on anyone for a role. You do not even need to kiss pissed aprons. This is not the recipe for success. Concentrate only on your work. It is tiring. And do not define yourself. Do not compare yourself with anyone. Educate yourself, look inside yourself for what you want to say and say it. It’s a game. Just take the rules seriously and play fair. The theater is a place of sharing. Where you open and the other opens to you. It’s where you need to feel safe and confident to leave yourself in the hands of others. The whole. With your talent and your inadequacy. With your conveniences and weaknesses. With your charm and your ungrateful self. Do not hide anything. The most beautiful result often results from your inadequacy and weakness. People are not one thing. Like the interesting roles you will play, they do not have only one dimension. They are neither only good nor absolutely bad. It is very relaxing to have a clear position on everything and very comforting. It is very easy to be a fan and it does not bother. As long as you decide who you will love and who you will hate.

What is right and what is wrong. I wish I could have no contradictions and everything be clear inside me.
I wholeheartedly support women and boys who have suffered any form of abuse.
I believe in them, I appreciate them and I admire them for their courage. I understand how difficult it is to find the courage to step forward. Some of these women are my friends and I love them. The theater needs courageous people and not brazen ones. Generous. On stage they leave space for the other and help him to come out better. Not from narcissistic personalities who draw strength from the humiliation of others. I support the people who take responsibility and come out with a name to complain about something unjust that weighs on them and that thus pave the way for others who did not have a voice to be heard. And they must stop being afraid. We do a job that we chose out of love. Fear has no place here.

On the other hand, I can not even rejoice at the destruction and annihilation of others. I understand that it could not have happened otherwise and I am very sad for them. I am sorry. That’s all I feel. Regret. And embarrassment. We met with some, we walked with some in parallel and I admired others for their work. But the fact that I had a very good collaboration with someone does not make me question another man who passed by him as a martyr. I just can not and do not want to go to the stoning of the square to throw a stone. It is something that is foreign to me anyway. I can only stand in awe at everyone’s hard time.

I know that I can have this composure because no one has ever abused me and I have no pain or anger. But the fact that I, out of position, character or just because I was lucky, did not leave room for someone to treat me like that does not mean that I do not know what is happening next to me. And how much my colleagues have suffered from unacceptable behavior.

But the issue should not be personal because there will always be some who will abuse power.

It is in human nature. And that’s why I think that everything that started should not be reduced to a clearing of accounts, but to see it as an opportunity for laws and rules to come in for many things. And we must demand for these rules and laws. From the State.

But laws that we must make sure are obeyed.

Because as is well known in Greece this is not self-evident.

And the laws must be obeyed to protect the weakest of us.

Those who have neither the luck, nor the character, nor the position to defend themselves. The strong find a way on their own.

Also, now is not the time to seize the opportunity to publicly accuse any colleague who has generally bothered him or her at work. This is not the meaning of MeToo and let us not stray from the goal.

And I ask those who refer anonymously to incidents that present to us all as if we live in “120 days in Sodom” with orgies, drugs and paranoid behaviors to stop doing so. It is a huge lie and it does great harm. When we all shout together, those who really need to be heard will not be heard.
And there will be no justice. We do not need to belittle such a serious issue in gossip or other political or personal expediencies. And let’s not tell people to go out and talk about what happened to you, go out now, say what you knew, take a stand. When and if someone will speak is his personal decision and we must let what he has to say mature in him. It is a very difficult time for the victims and very hard for those who are being accused. We must respect her.

Otherwise we throw them all together in the middle of the orchestra, Christians with lions, we spectators who thirst for blood, we take a seat in the stands showing with our finger who should live and who should die.
And then the scene becomes what we did not want from the beginning. Arena.
Because the theater, as my dear friend Alkis Kourkoulos said, does not need us to exist.
But we need it.

Source: lifo.gr


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