How to talk to children about tricky topics

All of us parents, ever since we have children, are a little afraid of the day when we have to talk with them about tricky topics, that is, how the children came into the world, that is, about sex. We bring you some useful tips on how to talk to children in a way that is appropriate for their age.

In order to talk with children about these topics, you don’t need to wait for the child to ask, or for them to “grow up a little”, sex can be discussed with children even in preschool age, only the speech should be adapted to their age.

Preschoolers

Children at this age are very curious and demand answers to all questions. If you are pregnant and the child wants to know how the baby got into mom’s stomach, answer honestly, don’t mention storks, cabbage, bees and flowers. The conversation about sex should not be just one, but prepare the child for it as soon as he starts with the first questions. To begin with, keep it short information that he can understand, and over time expand the story and add details.

If the child asks a question, make sure you don’t cross the line, but don’t diminish the whole story.

Schoolchildren

When they start school, children already start researching on their own and many times it happens that they already know some information even before you start the conversation. This is exactly why it is very important to make sure that the child receives the right information.

To begin with, tell the child to tell you exactly what he knows about this topic without hesitation, correct all that is incorrect, confirm what is correct and do not exaggerate with information that the child cannot yet process. Over time, their questions will become more direct and this is actually a sign that you have done a good job.

Teenagers

Research has shown that only one out of six teenagers talks about sex with their parents, which is quite a devastating fact. When it comes to teenagers, it is important how you talk to them and what message you send them. Be as clear as possible, don’t twist anything, say it as it is. On the other hand, before starting the conversation, you should decide whether you will tell the children that sex is only allowed between spouses or something else. Take your position firmly and explain to the child exactly why you think so.

Talk about all those important things like contraception and safety. Trust your child and try to treat him like an adult, it’s a formula that always works.