How Eros messed up our accounts in our partnership

However, Eros is a god that Psyche must not see. Here we discover the principle of the Shadow, as soon as something is not seen in love, something does not go well. It is the same with today’s dream of an ideal society, we have been striving for it for thousands of years, but something has always gone wrong.

Nikola Žuvela, psychotherapist and jyotish counselor

People observe events, as well as science, through chance, so the creation of the universe for science is a coincidence that has been functioning for billions of years, but all on a random basis.

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New age movements and self help he also suffers from that demand of idealism as if to escape from reality and not face the present life.

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In love, when Psyche finally sees his god Eros, the magic disappears, there are many torments and initiations that must pass. Eros is the god of death, an old children’s image of love that is incomplete and narcissistic.

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Lovers are daffodils who love themselves, their image, they do not love the person next to them.

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Those few who know love know the moment when falling in love with them changed color and set out to create real love and meet the Shadow. Then not only the love in the relationship changes, but the entire relationship, both at work and with friends.

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Usually people think that if they change jobs, everything will remain the same at their job, but that is not the case. Such insights completely change the view of the world, and the people around you cannot stand such a change, you disturb their view of the world and their narcissism.

Sooner or later, neither they will be able to be with you, nor you with them.

Many give up a step forward, they want to return to falling in love, and that is what Westerners do. They think they are modern, they change a lot of partners, but they always experience the same thing, their own inability to love. After many injuries, they move on, but antidepressants, disappointment in the forties and fifties catch up with them.

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Many turn to aconservatism so that they can transfer the disappointment to someone else. There is a strong grumpiness and criticism. It is ugly to watch when children grow old, and you cannot explain to them that they lived according to the pattern of Eros. They wanted to fall in love and the relationship to last, without having to do anything, or they did it in a way that they gave only one form of love so that at the end of the story they would say, I gave everything, but he gave it back to me.

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How narcissistic a Westerner is in falling in love is that he managed to call freedom and responsibility liberalism, which in translation means – he lives like an animal and lives as superficially as possible.

In this way, he wanted to simplify life and turn it into Disneyland. And he succeeded. He destroyed a planet in 100 years, which is on the verge of extinction.

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A Westerner is a child, he does not see that responsibility brings intimacy, trust, what everyone in their forties and fifties lacks as a source of water that they long for from within, but they never attract one because they do not give it to their partner.

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You would not believe how deep a problem it is to see through dreams. The relationship is expected to get everything, and the fear is that you will miss something if you stay in the current relationship, and in fact, they do not see that in the relationship give crumbs, and expect a mountain that can not see the top.

It is important for the relationship to answer the question, what are you doing in that community?

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If you do not know the answer to that question or if you think the answer is love, then you must know that there is love for birds, football, flowers… in translation, you are afraid to give a specific answer because it obliges you and asks you to question, no just whether you want love, but what you want from life at all.

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The relationship is a matter of worldview, it says whether you have a worldview at all or you took it from the community, and taking a worldview of the community in translation is hypocrisy because it says one thing and does another. You don’t have your self in him and schizophrenia reigns in him because you talk one thing, you’re another person at work, a third person at home, and a fourth person in love.

Make it your primary goal to talk about your feelings, desires, and the darkest parts of yourself with your partner, so you can both see your projections. This is where respect for the partner and responsibility, compassion arise, and that is something that is built and that is in the first place for lovers.

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If that is not the case in the first place, then there is no love. Eros as an archetype will take you to the death of a relationship, as in alchemy where lovers are shown in a picture – a couple lying dead in a grave.

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It is the death stage of narcissistic or incompetent love that is incapable of discernment and it is blind passion, while love is intelligence. We make love because it is our essence, not because we watch a movie or not.

brigitte tohm

As Jung says, “You are a slave to what your soul needs.”

Eros leads us to meet the other in us, says Jung: “He is so dominant, so controlling, violent, insensitive. “He” may be all that, but these qualities can lie dormant in the female psyche (Animus), unknown to her, but usually seen by others.

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“A woman in a man is associated with evil…… masculinity in a woman is associated with evil.”

It is not easy to accept when infatuation ends and when we encounter this truth that literally cuts us off.

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“That’s why people hate to accept their other,” Jung continues.

At workshops, conferences or consultations, I often talk about that other part, although many can see that part.

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Jung’s statement that we hate to know the other in ourselves creates resistance because the relationship is a labyrinth, a frequent theme in dreams as a path to the center of the labyrinth or love in the fight with our own Minotaur built from our projections and desires that we assumed the partner was.

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Eve to the serpent, “leads me into temptation because I want to know.”

Get into a relationship because everything else you live is completely useless – from travel, new things, luxury.

The path to the soul is like a thousand orgasms or Ananda, as Indian philosophy says. This is the real transformation of Eros.

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