Ghosting (ghost = spirit. in English) means sudden disappearance and further non-response to messages and calls, without giving any explanation: why is this happening, to what and why, the question is now! And, most important of all, who are these people ?!
Ghosting is, unfortunately, now so widespread that as a phenomenon it even got its name (ghosting) and it is estimated that about 80% of people have had this experience at least once.
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What is ghosting? You are in a relationship, everything seems to be fine and then, all of a sudden, unprovoked… he (or she) disappears. Without any specific reason or reason, at least not clear and said aloud to your partner. As if this is something completely normal, it does not give any explanations, but just disappears.
It is of little use to invite him / her, write messages and e-mails or try in any way to get in touch with the spirit, following its traces.
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Yes, clues, because, thanks to social networks (if it hasn’t blocked you), you’ll see posts and stories because of which you will understand that he is well (without a sudden illness from which he suddenly tragically lost his life, or an accident, type – he was hit by a car while riding a bicycle, fell from the top of a mountain while skiing, etc.) and that he just wanted to disappear from your.
Impossible, you say ?! That man… who was completely dedicated to me, planned with me until death do us part life, a romantic trip to Rome, introduced you to your mom, admired the lunch of the “future” mother-in-law… just to disappear, not to say hello to me, not to march in pm… ?! Impossible, you say again!
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But, shit happens… believe it or not.
So, let’s deal with this burning topic of the century and see what really happens when your partner suddenly disappears.
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That he didn’t fall into that black hole in space? You ask yourself again… No, really don’t try to find impossible reasons for his “spiritual” disappearance or ghosting, but let’s see how psychologists explain it.
Ghosteri / Ghosts they are not very empathetic people.
Ghosts they suddenly disappear.
They don’t give explanations, they don’t try to agree with their partner, they clarify, they just just don’t want to have anything to do with the person they were in a relationship with.
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What happens if you ask about the reason for the disappearance? They just don’t respond.
Their main characteristic is that they completely lack empathy, that is, they do not have the ability to empathize, that is, to put themselves in the place of another.
If someone asks what happened to you, they will say that he left you for your own good.
Ghoster / Duh is a weak person.
If a person applies the modalities of breaking up of this kind, it is because his inner fragility does not allow him to face his feelings in any other way.
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The easiest thing for him is to escape, to escape from a reality he would not otherwise know how to deal with.
Victims should neither understand nor justify, but the knowledge that they are ghosts / ghosts frightened persons offers another point of view that helps to overcome crime.
Those who disappear as ghosts they choose not to take responsibility for their actions.
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The advantages of this procedure for these people are numerous: there are no tiring discussions and moments in life, no excuses, and you avoid the weight of a conflict that is not very easy.
In short, you avoid responsibility and live as if that connection never existed.
Without too much fuss, ghosting / disappearing in the form of a ghost is a real, brutal form of emotional violence.
In fact, the victim suffers a strong injustice, fails to understand and accept everything that happens, and is at risk of remaining stuck in a broken relationship. Rejection of pain.
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Although it is often talked about in romantic relationships, it is a passively aggressive modality that can also include friends or work commitments, not just emotional relationships.
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