Fear of rejection prevents the development of intimacy with others

We usually pass by and pass without looking at a person who was part of our real world, at least for a moment. This encounter, although without words or touch, is an important aspect of our reality because it can potentially satisfy an important need that we all, as human beings, necessarily have.

Jelena Dragicevic Berat, psychotherapist

Although the mentioned encounter may seem insignificant, in fact, it represents a way in which we can let another person know that we have noticed it, so to speak, “recognized” it, if we just look at it.

That look, which lasts for a few seconds, can be important for the person we met, because we may be the only person who “noticed” the person in question that day. If our look is accompanied by a gentle smile, its effect is manifold because we did not let the one we met “see” him, but we sent her a sign with that gentle smile that she caused a certain pleasant feeling in us.

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Today’s times dictate the fast pace of life. Most people perform all their daily duties almost mechanically, not thinking that although the time in which we live is fast, some of the basic needs of every human being still remain the same.

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Time may have changed, but communication between people, mutual contact and acceptance remained a significant source of balance and well-being for each individual. It is important for every person to be surrounded by people, to have friends and family who love and respect him.

However, being surrounded by people does not necessarily mean that there is intimacy with them. Allowing others to get closer to us and get to know us better is a necessary condition for the development of closeness and mutual trust.

If there is distance, space is created for the development of alienation which can further lead to loneliness and isolation. Since humans are social beings and have needs for contact and associated acceptance, loneliness and isolation necessarily have bad consequences.

When people know and accept each other just as they are, a safe zone is created that represents the basis for the development of each individual’s personality and his progress.

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Although most people recognize and understand the need for other people to recognize, accept and be close to us, most do not allow intimacy spontaneously, and this may not come as a surprise because intimacy is synonymous with absolute honesty in which a person presents himself as he is. .

Boram Kim

This absence of “filters” in presenting oneself scares people because when a person shows all his virtues and flaws to others, there is a chance that he will be rejected because what if the other does not like him.

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This desire for others to accept us and the associated fear of rejection are often the main causes of the lack of closeness and connection between people, because people think that it will always be easier to endure loneliness than rejection and abandonment when others think they don’t like it.

Although the possibility of others rejecting us always exists, it must by no means be the main reason why an individual chooses loneliness and isolation.

Nik Shuliahin

Every person can choose the life he wants to lead and how much he will allow himself to show to others.

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It is important not to allow these decisions to disturb the quality of life of an individual because no matter how many fears are present, closeness with others can bring great satisfaction. When a person assesses that he is not strong enough or capable of that, the help of a psychotherapist can significantly change the situation.

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