Every time you get frustrated with people read these 20 lines
Whenever you are frustrated with the people you care about, think about how much you expected them to give you.
You saw it, you knew it, yet you hoped. No one is to blame for the expectations you have cultivated. How many times has the same thing been repeated?
You can at least stop waiting. Next time, make sure you look at the reality as it is and not as you would like it to be. See the people around you, depending on how much they want to be a part of your life and not based on how much you would like them to be. And you can decide what you want: what you want to expect and what not, what you choose to live with and with whom?
When someone shows you that you are their last choice, you can not stay hoping to occupy a more important position. The decision belongs to you: either you stay and compromise with the position given to you or you leave.
Whenever you are frustrated by the important people in your life, think that you have chosen them or at least given them an important place in your life. You may think that leaving is an anesthesia or a lack of sociability. However, think that it is a lack of self-respect to want to be a part of the lives of some people who constantly show you that they do not want to be a part of their own lives.
When everyone’s needs are different and the criteria that everyone considers important differ, you are called to choose what you want and who you want in your life. We will not dwell on whether or not it is right to be disappointed with the people in our lives. Let us dwell on what we feel.
Frustration: an emotion is. The question is what to do with this feeling. It would be helpful to motivate us to see what we are doing wrong in our choices or in the way we process or perceive our choices.
Do we constantly ask for more from people who just want to stay in superficial and ephemeral interactions with us? Do we invest in people who have never invested in the relationship we thought we had? more important than emotion? Do relationships depend more on the needs they can meet at the moment? Did we always expect more from people who were not willing to be here for us?
Therefore, in order to be my choice you must want it. To be a part of my life, you have to want it. As much as I hope and as much as I dream of these if there is no response, all I can do is once again be disappointed by the people around me… by the people I considered important and believed to be part of my life too part of their own life;
REMEMBER: you are not disappointed by the people, you are disappointed by the expectations you have for the people around you…
Text: Eleni Papadopoulou, Psychologist, MSc
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