Hugs and sexual games are rare while the daily agreement continues? A more common situation than it seems. Decryption by William Buna, psychologist.
First of all, the question of the decline in desire in the couple depends on the seniority of the relationship. “A young couple who no longer have sexuality will have more difficulty in managing the situation, introduces William Buna, psychologist in liberal. Conversely, partners who have been together for a long time can find a way to transcend it. In a couple that no longer has sexuality, one of the two may have a hidden relationship elsewhere. Freud spoke of sublimation, to evoke happy couples without sexuality because they sublimate their relationship through other things like cultivation, gardening, signs of affection.”
But the absence of sexuality sometimes corresponds to a slump or a personal balance. If the two protagonists agree with that and live it well, that’s not a problem. On the other hand, if frustration sets in, it is not tenable or even desirable, explains the psychologist. “After a while the question is transferred to other areas through reproaches. The problem is deported, it is quite frequent”.
The weight of society
The problem sometimes comes from the outside view. A person without sexuality can live it well but an implicit expectation is that this is not the case, analyzes William Buna again. This is what must be overcome. “Learning to find yourself, without sexuality, can be rich in teaching about yourself, there should be no rule or law in matters of sexuality”.
Talk about it, get help
If talking about it quietly within the couple does not work, consulting a professional brings in a third party. “She brings something positive and even if we realize that it’s no longer possible with the other, it doesn’t matter. It’s a way of moving forward.”
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