You are in a boat, lost somewhere in the vast ocean. You have the choice to stay hooked on the exact same spot, regretting your unjust destiny and begging a divine power to intervene.
There is, however, an alternative: You can paddle ashore, saving yourself. In fact, no matter how dense the fog covers our horizon, there is always an alternative course of action!
An amazing obstacle course manual
The author of the best seller “Among idiots” Thomas Erikson returns and pleasantly surprises us with his new book “Between obstacles”, which proves to be an amazing obstacle overcoming manual.
Can we turn our failures into successes and if so what strategies are proving to be most effective in managing adversity?
Let’s start with an assumption: As long as we do not live isolated in a bowl, we will inevitably be faced with a sudden storm, a clumsy partner, a moody companion. So since we can not eliminate the difficulties from our daily life, what can we do? But of course to take full responsibility for ourselves!
Taking full responsibility for ourselves
Our first responsibility is to control our actions. Suppose we start a diet but the colleague has his name day and so he comes to the office with a box of sweets, which by a diabolical coincidence are also our favorites. It would at least seem rude not to eat and so we succumb to temptation. What, then, undermined our diet beyond ourselves and our reluctance to stick to our commitment?
Our second responsibility concerns all that we do not do. Probably our partner is late coming back from work lately and we feel neglected. But why do we avoid expressing our feelings to him, accumulating in us a lot of bitterness that with mathematical precision will one day lead to an outburst of anger? In fact, we are afraid to risk what we have and so we are content with half measures, turning a blind eye to the omen of the storm.
And then there is our third responsibility, which is related exclusively to our own reaction to what is happening. So we may attribute our professional or personal failures to our difficult childhood years, but only if we abandon the role of the victim will we be able to break free from the past, intervening in the scenario of our lives.
Leaving our seat belt
Thomas Erikson encourages us to put aside excuses and take action. Are we ready to step out of our comfort zone? If the answer is yes, then it is time to get organized.
It is a good idea to make a list of the causes of our whining and then focus on finding solutions. After all, personal maturity is achieved when we stop looking for scapegoats for the wrong texts of our daily lives and take the helm of our destiny.
The lessons behind the challenges
So how do we become masters of our future? Once we accept difficulties as an integral part of life, we need to take a step back and observe them calmly. Is the challenge really that big? What do we learn from it?
In fact, every little adversity proves valuable, as it trains us to acquire those skills that we will find useful in big storms.
Thinking as the key to crisis management
Our ally or enemy in crisis management is our thinking, since it evokes the emotions that lead us to specific action. For example, if we have a stressful time at work, the thought that we will not succeed causes us stress and stress may lead us to spasmodic actions.
Leaving behind bad habits
Undoubtedly, each of us, depending on our temperament, defines the obstacle differently and reacts to it in his own personal way. But how do we stop undermining our own efforts for a higher quality of life?
If we practice recognizing the defense mechanisms that hold us back, then we will gradually consciously choose to break free from our harmful habits and establish more beneficial behaviors.
The image of our personal success
In order not to give up our effort, it is important to have a distant goal on the horizon. So let’s close our eyes and ask ourselves what success means to us: It may have to do with an emotion or some more visible achievement. Once we have clearly defined the image of our personal success, it is time to break what we want into smaller, manageable pieces. We are now ready for substantial shifts.
The change of life attitude
The book “Between obstacles” reminds us that, regardless of the adversities we will encounter along the way, the most difficult opponent remains ourselves. And to overcome the challenges, we need to use our courage and perseverance. Changing your lifestyle is not an easy task but it is the code that unlocks the lock of our bottomless possibilities. So are we ready for a trip to the stars of self-realization?
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