If we feel that we are also mentally overburdened by the pressure of work-family-home, we need to help ourselves. And that requires a change of attitude and a change in working methods at the same time. It is not that we need to do more, but on the contrary, less, but more effectively, to protect ourselves from the serious consequences of increasing nervous pressure. So all this is a matter of ‘mental survival’ and we need to find solutions to it.
Here are 6 recommendations:
1. Don’t strive for perfection
Because of the great and constant pressure on us, we believe that everything that concerns us should be impeccable and related to all activities related to our family, our home. We chase the ideal, which destroys our self-esteem, and it involves dramatizing the slightest mistake, an increase in nervous load.
The solution: take less without guilt and underestimation, not all our efforts. Let’s stop at the eternal comparison with the perfect family picture, and by tormenting ourselves because we are making everything worse. This is the hotbed of underestimating and blaming ourselves.
2. Take on responsibilities for the whole family
If our partner is not reluctant to take on all the tasks, he or she is often more of an executor than an organizer. As for the kids, the less we ask of them, the less they will accomplish! That is why we need to organize our work well and convene a ‘family cap council’ from time to time.
Program: developing a weekly work-sharing plan in which each family member undertakes to perform specific tasks according to their age and time schedule. It can also be useful to put a calendar in a place that is visible to everyone, where all family members can share information with each other (eg medical examinations, anniversaries, competitions, exam dates, etc.). And once a week, ideally on the weekends, take 30 minutes to get together with our couple or the others, evaluating the past week and recording the distribution of things to do for the next week. This reduces the mental pressure on us, which is good for body and soul.
3. Sharing emotions
When we do everything without a word and don’t express our feelings about it (e.g., our satisfaction after finishing a tiring job), it is usually considered normal by everyone. Therefore, especially in jobs that take up a lot of our time and energy, we need to share our emotions with our family members, those around us. It is important to acknowledge the work and talk about the mental burden it has had, until it was ready, in order to get a positive confirmation. The more appreciated a task, the more motivating it is.
4. Less work undertaken
The to-do list usually never ends – if we pull an item out of it, there are two more… We need to change the method! Open a booklet that records your routine. Then we decide to remove some non-essential tasks from the list (e.g. baking cakes, tidying up in the closet, etc.), even if we are reluctant to do so (because of the inner pursuit of perfection). Then write (in red) in the same booklet if this deletion has had negative consequences or if it has had no effect and has not caused a complaint from anyone (marked in green). In this way, week by week, we can see that many “essential” tasks are actually unnecessary for a while. Let’s prioritize and relieve ourselves of the burden.
5. Achieve a better schedule
Most often, the length of time required for each task is much underestimated, and hence the feeling that we always have to rush. There is no other solution, we need to measure time because we need to know approximately accurately how long the various things to do and the programs planned can take – not forgetting the time spent traveling. Once we have compiled these, we can organize our day more realistically and evaluate our schedule. At the same time reducing our rush and mental strain…
6. Take a break
In case of overload, it is essential to take a break from the performance of (routine) tasks in order to regenerate and recover. The more to do, the more it is needed, the intermittent interruption becomes a necessity. At the same time, we need to get rid of the fear of feeling “doing nothing” and gradually devote more and more time to ourselves. Yes, you can read on the couch until dinner is ready and the washing machine is full or there are mountains to iron. The minutes spent on ourselves do not mean wasted time, on the contrary, we win with them…Doing less for others and more for ourselves is not selfishness, but the property of a balanced, cheerful, overwhelmed woman. Which ultimately benefits everyone…
Source: Patika Magazin Online by www.patikamagazin.hu.
*The article has been translated based on the content of Patika Magazin Online by www.patikamagazin.hu. If there is any problem regarding the content, copyright, please leave a report below the article. We will try to process as quickly as possible to protect the rights of the author. Thank you very much!
*We just want readers to access information more quickly and easily with other multilingual content, instead of information only available in a certain language.
*We always respect the copyright of the content of the author and always include the original link of the source article.If the author disagrees, just leave the report below the article, the article will be edited or deleted at the request of the author. Thanks very much! Best regards!